Lately, I've been noticing something that never used to bug me. I've noticed that no one seems to think before they speak. They don't care how it might hurt the person they're saying it to or even someone who just happened to overhear what they said. I admit, I'm one of those people.
There's this just absolutely obnoxious girl in my Spanish class. She does not know when it's time to be quiet, she doesn't listen to our teacher (whom has been a sub in our class for three months because our regular teacher is on maternity leave), she has no respect for anyone's privacy, and she says things that are absolutely terrible. She said to one of the guys in our class that they were so dumb because they didn't know what the Spanish word for "walks", and I just looked at his face after she said that to him and he looked really hurt but just brushed off because...you know, he's a guy! Guys don't show emotion very well. But for that split second, I saw just exactly how much words can hurt people.
One more example will be someone who says the word "retarded" a lot. I have a lot of friends who do that. I used to. I can't anymore, not after a situation I saw. I was walking around a mall last summer and a mother was there with her little girl and a little boy. This little boy was really cute. He looked like the happiest kid alive. He had a helmet on and you could tell he was mentally challenged. I was sitting on a bench and I watched this little boy. His mom went into a store and the kids went with her. About five minutes later, that little boy came out of the store, running and smiling and having a jolly good time. His mother came running out of the store looking rabid. She looked to her right and then the left and then she spotted him watching a man give a woman a massage at one of the stands. She went over and grabbed his arm and almost literally dragged him back into the store. I heard her yelling at him about how stupid he was and that he was so retarded and he dare not run off like that again. This kid was young, but old enough to understand what his mother was saying to him. He bawled and sobbed his eyes out. Everyone in the mall was staring at this mother and her son. Now, I understand she was probably scared to death but did she stop to think her words through? Probably not.
My point is, words can hurt. Words can hurt anyone, no matter how small or happy-go-lucky they are. They understand what you're saying and it hurts. Please, think your words through before you say them. I have been doing a much better job with this (at least I hope so!). And if anyone ever says a hurtful thing to you, don't try to dwell on it too much. Don't lash back with hurtful words in return, because you know how it feels. You know who you are and what's inside you and what's true about you. You know you better than anyone else ever could. As long as you know it isn't true, nobody else's opinion matters.
Peace, Blessings, and Love!!